http://www.idkfa.com/v3 idkfa: syndicated http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=389 I have my job through May 2011 so I don't think she can fire me as I'm on contract but she could make my work days hell so I'll just leave the defriending and snarky FB statuses about her until May when she can't bug me too much. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Fri, 03 Sep 2010 17:24:52 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=389 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=388 Yeah, it scared me. She was between me and the doorway. Eak! J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Fri, 03 Sep 2010 17:23:46 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=388 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=387 Not really. I work in a department at a college where it's pretty even between the sexes. I think we've 10 male profs and 8 female profs and 3 female full time staff workers and 3 male undergrad staff workers and then about even between men and women grad students. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Fri, 03 Sep 2010 17:22:51 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=387 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=386 So true. Cause if I put what was really on my mind on FB she'd stab me with a pencil. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Fri, 03 Sep 2010 17:20:25 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=386 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=377 The real problem in the world is that people are too easily offended. Sounds like a tough situation. Hence the reason that idkfa v3 exists to say what's really on your mind! Locked@idkfa.com (Locked) Asked and Answered Fri, 03 Sep 2010 00:40:17 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=377 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=376 I was just talking about this with Dan, and I was reminded that this isn't the first time I've heard of someone being judged for NOT having a crazy FB profile. One of my friends here in DC was involved in hiring summer interns at the place she works, and she was telling me about how the look each of the candidates up on facebook to see what turns up. They have turned down some applicants who have really scandelous or innapropriate profiles totally open to the public, but she was also saying that some of the other reviewers would get suspicious if they couldn't find a person at all on FB. They looked at it as though the person had something to hide. My friend said she got into a heated debate with her coworker at one point and tried to argue that it is better if you can't find the person because that means the took the time to lock their profile down and be responsible. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, I guess... Is there even a right answer!? CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 21:23:24 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=376 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=375 You should post a status message on your fb wall making sure it is uncovered for her to see it and write about "how sad it is that someone at work chose to pass professional judgements on you based on your personal fb wall." Or if you want to keep your job, probably don't... but that is what I would really WANT to do. haha. CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 21:13:30 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=375 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=374 I didn't think it was possible for me to hate the med school system more than I already do, but wow. That seriously makes me just want to hurt something or someone - particularly a med school admissions board person. What school did this happen with? And did they really say that to him verbatim? Or is that just what he is hypothesizing? CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 21:08:30 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=374 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=373 Do you work in a female dominant work place? Because I can only imagine bullshit like that being accepted in a predominantly female work environment. That is just obnoxious. CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 21:06:25 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=373 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=370 What. kaiden@idkfa.com (kaiden) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 18:04:38 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=370 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=368 You should defriend her; I imagine she'd believe you were terminating all real-life contact with her. Green Man@idkfa.com (Green Man) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:40:44 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=368 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=367 She just left my office after confronting me about limiting her view of my FB profile. I was informed that she had said the earlier comments as a friend and that it was sad that I had blocked her from seeing my wall. Though she commented that it was "your right" to do that. I apparently can't win today with her. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:57:01 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=367 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=366 The micro-managing woman who talked to me. I showed the status to my direct supervisor and she told me it was funny and less insulting than what she thought about putting on her status after a rough day of student interactions and that her vote was to leave it be. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:30:22 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=366 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=365 Mine too. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:27:09 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=365 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=364 I guess its hard for me to care more, because its not an issue. I befriended my boss of fb before he became my boss, and I didn't bother changing anything after that happened. Nor do I do anything worthy of censorship. I basically maintain fb so my mom can occassionally see pictures of shit john and I do. Though of course there are other things there as well. Social networking is only dangerous if you use it. Its also not like I have some kind of luxury to get fired and find some dream job. I'd have a rather difficult time I'm sure finding new work. But I'm just not the personality type to try to act like a different person in order to gain employment. MrFood@idkfa.com (MrFood) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:01:29 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=364 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=363 Unfortunately, some people don't have the luxury of departing or hopping into a dream job with tech savvy, understanding middle/upper management. There are certain social hoops to jump through from time to time, especially if you want to pay the bills or meet a personal objective. [Ex: I'm going to work at this upper tier but stuffy design firm so I can build the resume required to work for the XYZ firm I'd prefer to] No one is questioning how you spend your personal time, I think the debate is the idea of advertising it on a veritable public forum. Maybe your twitter account celebrates your depraved (but legal) sexual fetishes, or even something more innocuous as a political agenda. If that is something you don't mind sharing with employers, great. But I think the point is that there may be repercussions for your actions. Some people may take greater stock in a snapshot of your character, others might take a more realistic approach. I'd rather err on the side of caution, and keep my work and personal life separate. Green Man@idkfa.com (Green Man) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:33:54 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=363 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=362 That makes my brain scream. kaiden@idkfa.com (kaiden) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:15:37 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=362 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=361 Interestingly enough a guy I worked with here, was not considered by a med school because they tried to look him up on fb and saw it was completely baren and locked down. They looked at other social networking sites as well and saw the same thing. The guy was told that he wasn't going to be considered because they wanted applicants to have some kind of social like outside of worrying about whether or not they could get into med school. This pissed they guy I work owith off, I laughed. Turns out this conversation came out after a few drinks. MrFood@idkfa.com (MrFood) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:02:40 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=361 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=360 As inconvenient as it may seem, and I understand the lack of retaliation I would have against an employer or boss, If I get fired for what I do on my own time at home that is perfectly legal and it ends up on facebook. I really don't think that boss or company is for me. If I get hammered on the weekend and it does not affect my work, it should not be their business. Currently I work at a place where that is fine, and is fine with my boss. They really don't give a shit about what I do when not at work, and on top of that I don't really do anything that poses a risk anyway. In the future that may no be the case, but I will not stop doing what I do or the way I do it even in the threat of being fired. MrFood@idkfa.com (MrFood) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:55:17 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=360 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=359 Nicely worded. I think that is really true. I do wish that we weren't judged in a professional context by the things we do and say in our own personal time, but unfortunately we are... I can't even tell you how often I hear of or see people being thrown out of consideration for something they are applying to because of something someone sees on their facebook page. In my mind I see facebook as a means of keeping in contact with friends, but also in some ways, I see it as a way of building an online character. I'm definitely not perfect at doing this, but I try to at least consider if someone who doesn't know me well were to see my profile somehow, who would they think I am? The answer to that most likely is that they would think I'm an uptight boring human being who is 25 going on 65, but I guess it's better to have a forgettable profile than one that is memorable for being problematic. haha. CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:36:44 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=359 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=358 The problem arises when someone in a position of authority cares. You might not invite your boss to that party of drunken debauchery, so why give them a sans context window to it on the internet? Better yet, why leave an insecure trail for future employers/family/networking? I'd rather err on the side of caution and keep shit locked down to avoid unwanted situations. I don't think it's a question of 'who should care' so much as 'who will care'? Green Man@idkfa.com (Green Man) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:24:50 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=358 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=357 Considering how innapropriate my comments while I'm actually at work are. I really could care less about what I put on fb. Not that I put much of anything on there anyway. Though occassionally I think I should have refrained from saying things in reply to other people. With Josh on this one, if the quote is random and not hurtful to a specific person in the department who cares. And too bad for that person if they do eventually see it. MrFood@idkfa.com (MrFood) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 13:58:25 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=357 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=356 It wasn't attributed to anyone, who cares? kaiden@idkfa.com (kaiden) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 12:58:21 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=356 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=355 Good advice. I put her and other coworkers on the limited setting where they can't see my status updates. I think she noticed already because she stopped by a bit ago and commented on how funny the status update before the one she reprimanded me for was. Sigh. J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 12:10:12 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=355 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=353 In my opinion, absolutely definitely positively without a doubt to not let anyone who you work with - especially supervisors - have full access to seeing everything on your facebook. You never know when you'll get tired and post something that someone takes the wrong way or something worse. Just start a limited profile setting and dump anyone and everyone you work with (even people who aren't supervisors) into that category, and set it so they can't see anything other than your basic work/school/networks/etc information. One year while I was home for the holidays and had time on my hands I even went as far as starting a "limited profile" group and a "semi limited profile group." The first can only see the basic work/school/networks/etc information, and the second can see most of my stuff but never my statuses unless I specifically change that for a particular status message. That's just my $0.02. Even though I am very careful about what I put on fb, I'm extremely paranoid about letting people see everything, especially if it is someone who I don't know extremely well or someone I work with or a professor. I feel like declining their "friend invite" or whatever it's called looks as though I'm trying to hide something, but accepting it opens up way too much sometimes. I got on fb back when it was just college friends. I kinda wish it could still be that way... But I guess even facebook had to grow up, didn't it. haha. CapitolZebra@idkfa.com (CapitolZebra) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 11:50:18 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=353 http://www.idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=352 The Assistant to the Chair of my department, so my supervisor's supervisor, informed me today that my facebook status updates (which she can see because she FB friended me when I started grad school here) were not cool. I had been posting funny quotes overheard on campus, see the example below. Here's my question, do I block her from seeing the status updates, unfriend her completely, or just delete the statuses and not post such things again while my job is here (so until May 2011) or some other option I haven't thought of? The post that made her speak to me: Most memorable quote of the day, "I tried to find the HR department but all I could find was the HR department, like the normal HR, not the HR major. They're who I want to get my masters with." J_Maru@idkfa.com (J_Maru) Asked and Answered Thu, 02 Sep 2010 10:53:27 -0800 http://idkfa.com/v3/v_thread.php?thread_id=352&msg_id=352